Winter Solstice and Holiday Season

During the holiday season we look around and from the outside it is all about shopping, presents, overeating and day to day routines. Busy, busy, busy.

What about the inside? What is happening on the inside? When we look past the physical body and look at the invisible part of ourselves. The spirit part of ourselves. Or the spiritual part. The essence of who we really are.

What is happening there? My guess is, not too much. Why?

Because that part of us needs some solitude, some quiet time, some reflection time.  What are you doing to feed that part of yourself?

Are you meditating, reflecting, listening to the silence? Doing something that feeds your soul?

Our present society is divorced from nature. We are so out of touch with Mother Earth and so out of touch with ourselves as a result.

December 21 is the Winter Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere. It marks the beginning of winter, the shortest amount of daylight, the lowest arc of the sun, and the return of longer daylight hours in the days, weeks and months to come. It is the time of hope for it promises the renewal and rebirth of all things.

The Winter Solstice supports us to go inside and listen to ourselves and to nature. Think of ways you and your family can acknowledge the power and beauty of Mother Earth, and how you can help to keep it as clean and healthy as possible for our future generations.

Cold winter is the time of inwardness and self-reflection when all of nature seems dead. Yet, the Winter Solstice carries hope for new birth and a fresh beginning. Winter is one of the seasons of the rhythms of Mother Earth. The rhythms that we have stopped listening to or relating to.

As Mother Earth nurtures us, so the Sun nurtures Mother Earth. Many people forget that life on Earth is totally dependent upon the energy of the Sun. Without the Sun’s warmth and light, there would be no life as we know it. Everything is so connected.

As we acknowledge the rhythms of Mother Earth and the Sun and the Moon, we will be more connected to ourselves. I encourage you to acknowledge the Winter Solstice and listen to what your body wants to do.

Do you need to sleep, slow down, take a break, meditate, reflect or just be still for a while? I highly encourage you to breathe and take time to listen both to yourself and to Mother Earth. There is such tranquility there. Serenity, peace, harmony, flow, wisdom, love and joy are all waiting for you. Take some time out to experience it.

Happy Holidays and Winter Solstice,

Charlene

What is Ontological Coaching?

Self awareness and self-understanding lie at the heart of living a more fulfilled life. Ontological coaching is the fastest path to growth in these areas.

Ontological coaching is aimed at helping people live authentic and fulfilling lives. It is a type of coaching based on the philosophical study of the nature of being, ontology.  Ontology looks at what exists, what is true, and what is real. Ontology is also the study of how we determine if things exist or not, as well as the classification of existence. It explores the human condition and can train us to choose the best way of being at any given moment.  Ontological coaching can support us in achieving our goals and creating a new way of being.

Ontological coaching addresses the multi-dimensional nature of humans as biological, linguistic, emotional, somatic, along with our unique culture and history. It is very holistic in its approach with a biology, ecology, and mindfulness approach. Language, emotions and body are encompassed and there must be shifts in all three areas to integrate the change.

Our perception of the “truth” influences what we think and what we can know. Therefore, it is important to develop options and choices, that we may not have thought of without some guidance. Ontological coaching helps us to notice our existing patterns, practices, distinctions, assumptions, worldviews and concerns by creating a space for that awareness.

“This is so important because our subconscious mind is full of paradigms—those complex and habitual memorized behavioral patterns, emotional reactions, assumptions, values, perceptions, attitudes, beliefs or scripts that can act as filters to our experiences. Paradigms are deeply entrenched habits in our subconscious and guide our behavior and how we make choices. Our paradigms or beliefs control our perception, effectiveness, productivity, our ability to earn money, and much more. What we don’t realize is that our subconscious mind operates this programming for us approximately 96% of the time. It is running the show, so our lives are created mostly from our subconscious programming on autopilot. It is like an internal map or blueprint that must match the outside world. If we are not cultivating new habits, the old ones run automatically (even without our knowing it).” 30 Laws of Flow

Ontological coaching seeks to challenge our presuppositions and helps us to recognise that what we think of as ‘truth’ is usually nothing more than learned narratives. Our narratives and stories are usually expressed in the things we say as well as our beliefs and values; but they are often silent, invisible and in the background of everyday conversations. They also have an emotional and somatic dimension and can be major barriers to the change we desire.

Ontological coaching expands our capacity to choose. It is a means of producing major shifts in perception and behavior through all aspects of communication. No longer are we driven by our paradigms, beliefs, perceptions, attitudes assumptions, our views of the world, our “default” behaviors; instead we have the freedom to choose who we wish to be. This capacity enables us to accomplish our goals, to deepen our relationships, and to live a life that is full and rewarding in a more connected world.

Ontological coaching observes how we use language, what emotions are shaping our interpretation of the world, how we move through space, all the time facilitating our awareness of what we were previously blind to. It’s so obvious that we don’t see our presuppositions. In other words, we are blind to our blindness. We need someone “outside ourselves” to help us see what we cannot see – to reveal our cognitive blindness.

Ontological coaching will help expand your possibilities, increase your capacity to learn, act more effectively and better design your future.

For more information on Ontological coaching, please contact me.

To your success,

Charlene Day

“Just as you grow into the world, the world grows into you. Not only do you occupy a certain place, but that place, in turn, occupies you. Its culture shapes the way you see the world, its language informs the way you think, its customs structure you as a social being.” Costica Bradatan

What Results Would You Expect From Coaching?

There are many different types of coaching in the self-development space. Coaches can be either a career/business coach, executive coach, or life coach. So depending on the path you are embarking on, you will choose the correct type of coach who will guide you in the direction you are going. It is important to find the right one for your particular needs.

But the decision goes even deeper. What part of your career/business do you need help with? Are you looking for a niche or a passion, are you a start-up, do you need help with planning or motivation, performance, laser coaching, skills such as sales, goal attainment, success achievement, motivation, leadership, mastermind, or are you in transition? The answer would lead you the right type of coach.

Life coaching is huge so getting really specific helps. Are you looking to work on more emotional intelligence, empowerment, co-dependency, parenting, managing life changes, personal development, self-esteem, self talk, mind adjustment, targeted behavioral changes, financial, debt management, abundance, prosperity, wealth, health and wellness, diet, nutritional, weight loss, fitness, help with a specific illness, health recovery, retirement, spirituality, relationship, marriage, engagement, lifestyle or personal issues?

Coaches have distinctive styles. No two business coaches, for example, would coach the same way. Some coaches use a model-based approach, some work with measuring, some work with plans, or work with delegation, focus on solutions, are non-directive, values-based, are goal focused, and some are accountability coaches, etc.

Other coaches (typically called transformational coaches) go to a deeper level. They usually have a working knowledge of the mind especially the conscious and subconscious mind. They are usually employing various disciplines such as neuro-linguist programming (NLP), transactional analysis, hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, and psychology, etc. These coaches usually have a more formal educational background.

Good coaches are dedicated to being facilitative, not imposing or prescriptive. They have excellent active listening skills, strong communication skills, show a genuine interest in their clients, are supportive and act in the best interest of their client, create an atmosphere of trust, stay up to date, and know how and when to ask the right questions.

Many coaches employ typologies to help strengthen the coaching process.  Typologies help gain insight into the dynamics of relationships with others and self and create a sense of understanding and more harmonious communication.  Some typical typologies are DISC, Myers Briggs, the Enneagram or social styles.

The other aspect of choosing a coach is their background. If you are an entrepreneur, for instance, then you would want a coach who had experience in this area. You would want the life experience to be there and also the success in that area. Likewise, with a weight loss coach, you would want a coach who had both the experience and the success with weight loss. Every coach tends to bring his or her own unique perspective and expertise.

Then you have to decide, do you want face to face coaching or coaching over the phone. You also have to consider, do you want group coaching or individual coaching.

The ways and means by which you can receive coaching are many and varied. This brief overview oversimplifies the complex coaching marketplace.

Hopefully, this blog has provided a synopsis.  Call to discuss and simplify your options.

To your success!

Charlene

12 Steps To Reduce Your Risk Of Cancer

April is cancer month so I thought it is important to address this before the month is over. We are in a situation where 1 in 2 people will be diagnosed with cancer at some point in their life. Back in the fifties, it was 1 in 80.

60% of cancers are preventable according to the American Cancer Society. Science has proven that diseases are not “caught” but are caused by what we eat or don’t eat, and by the accumulation of a “toxin-load” from a polluted world.

More than 95% of all chronic disease is caused by food choices, toxic food ingredients, nutritional deficiencies and lack of physical exercise. In 1970 North Americans spent 7.2 Billion on fast food. In 2016 North Americans spent 200 Billion on fast food.

Every minute 10 million cells in your body divide to create new cells. Usually, this process occurs at the right time and in the right way. However, if the cell division process is defective, then cancer cells may be produced. Nutritional deficiencies, toxic chemicals, imbalanced hormones, stress, radiation, and heavy metals are some of the causes of a defective division process.

12 steps to reduce your risk of cancer.

Step 1: Healthy food choices. This will involve aiming for healthier foods, eliminating non-foods, staying hydrated and focusing on “clean eating”.

Step 2: Drink optimal pure water. Get the “Clean Water” water pitcher from Shaklee. It reduces contaminants that affect your health. Much more the leading brands, and comes with contaminant reduction claims that are certified.

Step 3: Lifestyle changes. Exercise often and get adequate rest. Stress also dramatically increases the need for nutrients as does the increased toxin exposure which requires more antioxidant protection.

Step 4: Reduce toxic exposure. it just takes 26 seconds for the chemicals in your personal care products to enter your bloodstream. Take a look at what is in your products including your cleaning products.

Step 5: Supplement with high-quality supplements. Supplementation is essential these days due to hectic lifestyles that make it hard to eat right and our devitalized soil creates deficiencies.

Step 6: Include quality, non-GMO, raw-processed soy protein in the diet daily. Make sure it is water-washed soy and that the anti-thyroid/anti-growth enzyme is removed.

Step 7: Increase your antioxidants. Every day your cells are bombarded with up to a million DNA assaults that can damage the cell’s genetic code and create a “typo” that compromises the cells function, causes cellular aging and increases the risk of cancer. The concentrated tonic “Vivix” undoes this damage.

Step 8: Support the production of Interferon in every cell in your body with the use of polysaccharides. The best way is through “NutriFeron” as it increases natural interferon.

Step 9: Optimize your Vitamin D3 Levels and decrease your risk of cancer by more than half.

Step 10: Optimize your Vitamin C, Vitamin E & Carotenoids to reduce your risk.

Step 11: Detoxify your body. There are many cleanses on the market but Alfalfa, OptiFlora, DTX, Herb-Lax and lots of water and fiber can be taken daily to detoxify.

Step 12: Laugh and love … express love for your fellow humans … hug someone today.

This just gives you some highlights. Contact me if you have any questions about any of the terms.

The bottom line – prevention is key.

To your good health!
Charlene