Friday, November 16, 2018

Making a Living While You’re Looking for a Job

While plenty of good jobs do exist, it could take you some time to land just the right one. In the meantime, here are a few tips on how to make ends meet while you’re looking for a job opportunity.

Workplace Stress

It may be a good idea to ease back into a full-time job by starting with something part-time or on the side. Take time for self-care by eating healthy, taking breaks and getting some exercise. If you feel like the stress will be too much to handle, use some of the tips in the Self-Care Checklist for Mental and Physical Health to help you out while looking for a job.

Pet Sitting

One of the best ways to get some income flowing in while you’re looking for a job is to start a side gig where you are only dependent on yourself for success. This lets you avoid the stress that comes with a regular job until you are a little more settled. One of the more popular side gigs that you’ll find is starting a pet sitting business. This is different than dog walking. Pet sitting involves becoming the primary caregiver for an animal while its owners are away. It typically involves making sure they are fed and watered along with playing with them for a bit. Some owners even want sitters to spend the night to take care of their pets. Here are a few guidelines to starting your own pet sitting business.

Sell Handmade Items on Etsy

If you are crafty and good with your hands, another side hustle that may work well for you is selling handmade items on Etsy, an online marketplace that allows creative people to sell their goods to anyone willing to buy. You can start your own business fairly easily, and as long as you offer something of unique value, you should make enough money to keep the business running well. The site includes thousands of handmade, vintage and one-of-a-kind products and gifts. Many shops will even customize orders, so offering this kind of service will serve you well.

Teach Musical Lessons

Another common side gig is teaching musical lessons. This, of course, requires that you know how to play an instrument or sing well enough to pass your knowledge on. If this sounds like you, check out these tips for getting started on building your own music teaching studio. This is a great business to get into because it gives people a skill that lasts for a lifetime, which is always a popular offering.
If these side jobs don’t fit you well, don’t stress – there are dozens more out there. You are only limited by your imagination, so if you have a good idea for your own business, now is the time to talk to an entrepreneur coach about it. The coach will help you find something you like and stick with it until that dream opportunity comes along.
Guest Blogger,

Rufus Carter

Wednesday, October 24, 2018

The Art of Listening

In this very distracted world, the art of listening is becoming more and more important. Listening is the act of receiving a communication message. We hear with our ears but listening requires concentration. Listening can happen at many levels. Our brain can process the meaning, our heart can process the feeling aspect, and our gut can process the unspoken part, the intuitive aspect. Our eyes are important as well in listening and ultimately, if we are good listeners, we listen with our whole body.
Interesting that the whole body shows up in Albert Mehrabians’s 7-38-55 rule of communication. It indicates that the body language is the predominant factor in communication.
  • 55% by body language
  • 38% by voice and tone
  • 7% by the content or the words spoken
So back to the listening aspect of communication. How to you feel if while communicating to another, the listener pulls out their phone and starts to text? You certainly don’t feel heard and probably feel hurt or worthless on some level. On the other hand, if the listener held eye contact and held the space for you to talk, you would feel worthy, safe and like you matter.
As children probably 97% of us experienced things that left us feeling incomplete. So, we grow up with all sorts of insecurities. When we are in communication with another human being, on an unconscious level what we are really looking for is love, acceptance, being liked for who we are, and a sense of safety. As humans we are looking for connection with other humans and we want to matter. Being connected to other people is the essence of being alive. It’s all about relationship.
So really listening is very important and can be very healing. There are different ways of listening.
  • ignoring – not listening at all
  • pretend listening
  • selective listening
  • attentive listening
  • the fifth level of listening can be called empathic or active listening
This is where the listener is aware that their mind is reacting in different ways to what they are hearing and are constantly bringing their attention back to the conversation. The focus is 100% on the being who is speaking.
Pointers for empathic or active listening
  • Communication involves respect for the human who is speaking and giving them the opportunity to say what they want even though this may be contrary to your beliefs and ideologies.
  • Making eye contact.
  • Being sensitive to the speaker’s wants, needs and issues.
  • Being attentive to what the speaker is saying by really listening with your whole body.
  • Not interrupting or fidgeting.
  • Being aware that your facial and body language is in a receptive state.
  • Not preparing a response while the speaker is talking.
  • Paying attention to non-verbal clues or hints.
  • Being curious.
  • Being present.
  • Being transparent.
  • Creating trust and openness.
Our world needs so much healing on so many levels. Active or empathic listening could change the world, one conversation at a time.
To your success,
Charlene Day

Thursday, October 18, 2018

What is Ontological Coaching?

Self awareness and self-understanding lie at the heart of living a more fulfilled life. Ontological coaching is the fastest path to growth in these areas.
Ontological coaching is aimed at helping people live authentic and fulfilling lives. It is a type of coaching based on the philosophical study of the nature of being, ontology.  Ontology looks at what exists, what is true, and what is real. Ontology is also the study of how we determine if things exist or not, as well as the classification of existence. It explores the human condition and can train us to choose the best way of being at any given moment.  Ontological coaching can support us in achieving our goals and creating a new way of being.
Ontological coaching addresses the multi-dimensional nature of humans as biological, linguistic, emotional, somatic, along with our unique culture and history. It is very holistic in its approach with a biology, ecology, and mindfulness approach. Language, emotions and body are encompassed and there must be shifts in all three areas to integrate the change.
Our perception of the “truth” influences what we think and what we can know. Therefore, it is important to develop options and choices, that we may not have thought of without some guidance. Ontological coaching helps us to notice our existing patterns, practices, distinctions, assumptions, worldviews and concerns by creating a space for that awareness.
“This is so important because our subconscious mind is full of paradigms—those complex and habitual memorized behavioral patterns, emotional reactions, assumptions, values, perceptions, attitudes, beliefs or scripts that can act as filters to our experiences. Paradigms are deeply entrenched habits in our subconscious and guide our behavior and how we make choices. Our paradigms or beliefs control our perception, effectiveness, productivity, our ability to earn money, and much more. What we don’t realize is that our subconscious mind operates this programming for us approximately 96% of the time. It is running the show, so our lives are created mostly from our subconscious programming on autopilot. It is like an internal map or blueprint that must match the outside world. If we are not cultivating new habits, the old ones run automatically (even without our knowing it).” 30 Laws of Flow
Ontological coaching seeks to challenge our presuppositions and helps us to recognise that what we think of as ‘truth’ is usually nothing more than learned narratives. Our narratives and stories are usually expressed in the things we say as well as our beliefs and values; but they are often silent, invisible and in the background of everyday conversations. They also have an emotional and somatic dimension and can be major barriers to the change we desire.
Ontological coaching expands our capacity to choose. It is a means of producing major shifts in perception and behavior through all aspects of communication. No longer are we driven by our paradigms, beliefs, perceptions, attitudes assumptions, our views of the world, our “default” behaviors; instead we have the freedom to choose who we wish to be. This capacity enables us to accomplish our goals, to deepen our relationships, and to live a life that is full and rewarding in a more connected world.
Ontological coaching observes how we use language, what emotions are shaping our interpretation of the world, how we move through space, all the time facilitating our awareness of what we were previously blind to. It’s so obvious that we don’t see our presuppositions. In other words, we are blind to our blindness. We need someone “outside ourselves” to help us see what we cannot see – to reveal our cognitive blindness.
Ontological coaching will help expand your possibilities, increase your capacity to learn, act more effectively and better design your future.
For more information on Ontological coaching, please contact me.
To your success,
Charlene Day
“Just as you grow into the world, the world grows into you. Not only do you occupy a certain place, but that place, in turn, occupies you. Its culture shapes the way you see the world, its language informs the way you think, its customs structure you as a social being.” Costica Bradatan

Friday, October 12, 2018

Gratitude and Happiness Revealed – How to be Grateful

We just celebrated Thanksgiving Day in Canada, and it always the perfect time to be reminded about gratitude. It is wonderful when we become aware of something, then we notice it everywhere. Being reminded of the vibration of gratitude is always wonderful. A reminder to be mindful and in the present moment, to reconnect with our inner being or soul, to be connected with a universe that celebrates life and that we are all connected, all one. In this, happiness is revealed.
I discovered the TEDxSF video by Louie Schwartzberg on Gratitude. Please take a few minutes to watch this amazing video on gratitude.
By happy coincidence, I was reading the chapter on gratitude from The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles. So, gratitude is in the air around Thanksgiving.

As this video suggests, we have so much to be grateful for; each day we are here, our precious life, so much.
It is easy to notice that people who live from a place of gratitude, experience more of life’s goodness. With the natural principle that action, and reaction are always equal, what we put out, comes back to us. When we feel gratitude, the universe sends it back.
As Wallace Wattles says, “It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you; and to give thanks continuously. This will bring you into harmonious relations with the good in everything, and the good in everything will move toward you.”
As we all are working for a better life, this video is a great reminder to cultivate the attitude of gratitude daily.
I wish for you a day filled with gratitude and continues daily! Feel free to check out the meditation on The Law of Gratitude if you want a daily reminder.
To your success!
Charlene

Thursday, October 4, 2018

10 Ways to Get Attitude Shifts

Most people let outside circumstances, other people, conditions, and environment control their attitude. We don’t want the outside world to control us. We want the control. When we choose to control our attitude, we can respond to life rather than react to it. When our attitude shifts everything shifts. In this post, I’ll cover 10 ways to shift your attitude and discuss what attitude is.
William James said, “Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” The only thing we have total control over is our attitude shifts.
Ask any successful person what tops the list of priorities for a successful life and they will tell you having the proper attitude.
Zig Ziglar said, “It is your attitude, not your aptitude, that determines your altitude.”

So, what is attitude?

Attitude is the composite of your thoughts (the activity of your conscious mind), your feelings (the activity of your sub-conscious mind), and your body, the material medium where your actions produce results. This is where behaviors show up.
  1. Clement Stone said, “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
All thoughts, feelings and actions are a form of energy that we express. Our thoughts charged with emotion set up a vibration in the body that will cause us to act. The universe will respond with a vibration in harmony with the one put out by us. So, if our attitude is positive we will attract a similar positive vibration and we will obtain a positive result. The same is true with the negative attitude.

So, what are these 10 ways to get attitude shifts?

  1. Believe you can change your attitude, break old habits, make the choice to change your vibration.
  2. Respond rather than react, change the way you look at a situation.
  3. Become aware of what enters your consciousness and choose the positive.
  4. Be aware of all the attitude components, the thoughts or beliefs, the feelings or the behavioral aspects and watch for any cognitive dissonance (holding two conflicting ideas) especially in the subconscious and the conscious minds.
  5. Monitor your internal dialogue and change the words or phrases to positive ones.
  6. Work with your strengths and delegate responsibilities that frustrate your attitude.
  7. Ask yourself penetrating questions to break the negative state and get you to think differently.
  8. Hang out with positive and inspiring people and model them.
  9. Live in alignment with your values.
  10. Count your blessings – have an attitude of gratitude.
Keeping your attitude positive is the fastest way to live the life of your dreams.
To your success!
Charlene
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Thursday, September 27, 2018

78 Ways Sugar Can Ruin Your Health

In addition to throwing off the body’s homeostasis, excess sugar, especially white sugar, may result in a number of other significant consequences. The following is a listing of some of sugar’s metabolic consequences from a variety of medical journals and other scientific publications. If you want thе references, contact me.
1. Sugar can suppress the immune system.
2. Sugar can upset the body’s mineral balance.
3. Sugar can cause hyperactivity, anxiety, concentration difficulties, and crankiness in children.
4. Sugar can cause drowsiness and decreased activity in children.
5. Sugar can adversely affect children’s school grades.
6. Sugar can produce a significant rise in triglycerides.
7. Sugar contributes to a weakened defense against bacterial infection.
8. Sugar can cause kidney damage.
9. Sugar can reduce helpful high-density cholesterol (HDLs).
10. Sugar can promote an elevation of harmful cholesterol (LDLs).
11. Sugar may lead to chromium deficiency.
12. Sugar can cause copper deficiency.
13. Sugar interferes with absorption of calcium and magnesium.
14. Sugar may lead to cancer of the breast, ovaries, prostate, and rectum.
15. Sugar can cause colon cancer, with an increased risk in women.
16. Sugar can be a risk factor in gall bladder cancer.
17. Sugar can increase fasting levels of blood glucose.
18. Sugar can weaken eyesight.
19. Sugar raises the level of a neurotransmitter called serotonin, which can narrow blood vessels.
20. Sugar can cause hypoglycemia.
21. Sugar can produce an acidic stomach.
22. Sugar can raise adrenaline levels in children.
23. Sugar can increase the risk of coronary heart disease.
24. Sugar can speed the aging process, causing wrinkles and grey hair.
25. Sugar can lead to alcoholism.
26. Sugar can promote tooth decay.
27. Sugar can contribute to weight gain and obesity.
28. High intake of sugar increases the risk of Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis.
29. Sugar can cause a raw, inflamed intestinal tract in persons with gastric or duodenal ulcers.
30. Sugar can cause arthritis
31. Sugar can cause asthma.
32. Sugar can cause candidiasis (yeast infection).
33. Sugar can lead to the formation of gallstones.
34. Sugar can lead to the formation of kidney stones.
35. Sugar can cause ischemic heart disease.
36. Sugar can cause appendicitis.
37. Sugar can exacerbate the symptoms of multiple sclerosis.
38. Sugar can indirectly cause hemorrhoids.
39. Sugar can cause varicose veins.
40. Sugar can elevate glucose and insulin responses in oral contraception users.
41. Sugar can lead to periodontal disease.
42. Sugar can contribute to osteoporosis.
43. Sugar contributes to saliva acidity.
44. Sugar can cause a decrease in insulin sensitivity.
45. Sugar leads to decreased glucose tolerance.
46. Sugar can decrease growth hormone.
47. Sugar can increase total cholesterol.
48. Sugar can increase systolic blood pressure.
49. Sugar can change the structure of protein causing interference with protein absorption.
50. Sugar causes food allergies.
51. Sugar can contribute to diabetes.
52. Sugar can cause toxemia during pregnancy.
53. Sugar can contribute to eczema in children.
54. Sugar can cause cardiovascular disease.
55. Sugar can impair the structure of DNA.
56. Sugar can cause cataracts.
57. Sugar can cause emphysema.
58. Sugar can cause atherosclerosis.
59. Sugar can cause free radical formation in the bloodstream.
60. Sugar lowers the enzymes’ ability to function.
61. Sugar can cause loss of tissue elasticity and function.
62. Sugar can cause liver cells to divide, increasing the size of the liver.
63. Sugar can increase the amount of fat in the liver.
64. Sugar can increase kidney size and produce pathological changes in the kidney.
65. Sugar can overstress the pancreas, causing damage.
66. Sugar can increase the body’s fluid retention.
67. Sugar can cause constipation.
68. Sugar can cause myopia (nearsightedness).
69. Sugar can compromise the lining of the capillaries.
70. Sugar can cause hypertension.
71. Sugar can cause headaches, including migraines.
72. Sugar can cause an increase in delta, alpha and theta brain waves, which can alter the mind’s ability to think clearly.
73. Sugar can cause depression.
74. Sugar can increase insulin responses in those consuming high-sugar diets compared to low sugar diets.
75. Sugar increases bacterial fermentation in the colon.
76. Sugar can cause hormonal imbalance.
77. Sugar can increase blood platelet adhesiveness which increases risk of blood clots.
78. Sugar increases the risk of Alzheimer Disease.
To your good health,
Charlene Day

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Healthy Habits: Wellness Strategies for Everyday Life

The “daily grind” is so named because it tends to wear a person down when all they do is work and focus on the needs of others. That’s why it’s so important to take time out now and then to make sure your mind and body are both healthy and well taken care of. It can be difficult, however, to pull your attention away from the things that matter most to you and slow things down, even if it’s because you so badly need it.

Fortunately, there are simple things you can do to incorporate healthy habits into your lifestyle that won’t break the bank or leave you feeling stressed. Whether you want to find a better diet, create an exercise routine, or get adequate rest, there are many ways you can start feeling better quickly that won’t necessitate you taking time away from your other responsibilities.
Keep reading for some wonderful healthy habits tips.

Take a Time-Out

Life can become hectic at times. For some, there are daily chores and jobs that must be taken care of, while others are dealing with medical or mobility issues that prevent them from being able to get as much done as they’d like. This can bring on stress and anxiety, which can contribute to a negative mental health state, so it’s important to find ways to relax. You might brew a cup of tea and sit down with a good book, or have a spa day where you make soothing, homemade skincare treatments or masks or give yourself a hot rock massage. Taking time out for yourself isn’t being selfish; it’s simply making sure that your body and mind can get a reprieve from everything that’s going on. For more on how to get started, read on here.

Relieve Stress

Relieving stress can be easier said than done for many people, but there are some simple things you can do to beat it. From creating a new exercise routine that will give you a mental health boost to picking up a hobby that helps you feel confident and happy, there are all kinds of things you can do to reduce negative feelings for a more joyful life.

Sleep to Dream

Many seniors have sleep issues; some have trouble getting to sleep and lay awake for a long time, while others have chronic pain that keeps them from falling into a restful sleep. Deep, dreaming sleep is necessary for everyone, and if you just aren’t getting there at night, it’s time to take another look at your sleep routine. Cut out caffeine for several hours before bed, put away computers and smartphones at least an hour beforehand, and check your mattress to make sure it’s still in good shape. If you have chronic pain or can’t get comfortable at night, you might consider investing in a new mattress.

Change Up Your Diet

The way we eat, and drink has a profound effect on the way we feel. You don’t have to make huge changes to your diet all at once, but there are some small things you can do to bring a healthier feel to the table. From adding dark leafy greens, berries, and lean meats and fish — which are anti-inflammatory foods — to leaning more toward whole grains, there are many ways you can make sure your diet works for you.

Incorporating healthy habits into your lifestyle is a great way to boost your energy and your mood, and it doesn’t have to be stressful or difficult. Find small ways to change your habits so they’ll be more manageable and remember to stay safe.

Jason Lewis
Guest Blogger

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